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Developing your listening skills allows you to be benevolent AND efficient. For managers, communication is central. And the more communication allows you to create a link with the other, that is to say to connect with the other, the more effective it will be. <\/p>\n

And the best way to connect is to listen.<\/p>\n

This article presents seven tips to develop your listening and presence.<\/span><\/h3>\n

(If you want the rest of the article in video version, click below!)<\/span><\/p>\n

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Developing your listening skills means connecting with others in the same place or via the same communication channel.<\/p>\n

Communicating in a benevolent and efficient way is a bit like a dance, we have a rhythm, we respond to each other.<\/p>\n

We are not two people in the same room, talking to themselves.<\/p>\n

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Listening is neither guessing, nor solving, nor answering.<\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>\n

To listen is to be present, and curious. To be there to understand, not to solve. <\/p>\n

To develop your listening skills, it is important to approach each conversation with the idea that it will teach you something. Either on us, or on the other, or on a situation. <\/span><\/p>\n

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My 7 tips for developing long-term listening, even in the heat of the moment<\/h2>\n

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1.Do one thing at a time.<\/h4>\n

While someone is talking to you, don’t write an email or check your notifications. Being present is not multitasking. <\/p>\n

Even if you think it doesn’t affect your presence, the other person’s perception of the quality of your presence certainly does!<\/p>\n

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2. Transition<\/h4>\n

If you don’t feel willing to listen, take a moment of transition. Sometimes I say, “Look, I’m just getting there! To be fully present to you, I need to drop off for 5 minutes. Where can I go to see you? \u00bb <\/p>\n

Then I take a micro break of 1-5 minutes: get a glass of water, listen to a song, take a breath of fresh air for a few minutes.<\/p>\n

Then I come back to the other, in a different state.<\/p>\n

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3. Finding a balance between action and contemplation.<\/h4>\n

We all have a different balance! In general, you’re going to need between 30-70% of the need for action, or the opposite, more in contemplation mode \u2013 feeling relaxed, in your bubble, having moments of concentration rather than being in motion and interacting with people. <\/p>\n

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The bottom line is that you can neither always be on the move nor always be inactive.<\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>\n

If you’re too much in motion, you’re creating stress and you don’t have free space to think. You find yourself more in reaction, fast mode, and you change your mind. It can even become anxiety-provoking. <\/p>\n

Then, if you don’t move enough, you wait too long to make decisions or overanalyze; You’re in your head. Your inner voices are loud and you are not present. <\/p>\n

The invitation is to find one’s balance and to respect oneself. To do this, you have to set your limits and say no<\/a>. <\/p>\n

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4. Do the “All 5” exercise<\/h4>\n

Here is an exercise that allows you to reconnect with your body and your senses. So, if you feel like you’re a little overwhelmed, here’s how to do it: <\/p>\n

Do it at the same time as you read if you want!<\/em><\/p>\n

We will connect to each of our 5 senses and identify 5 elements.<\/p>\n

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  1. Let’s start with the view <\/strong>: identify 5 things you see. On my side: a camera, a couch, a mat, a microphone, two people. <\/li>\n
  2. Then, the ears<\/strong> : listen to and identify 5 sounds in your environment: birds, cars, air conditioning, my breathing, the neighbor.<\/li>\n
  3. Let’s continue with the nose <\/strong>: smell and identify or imagine 5 smells: the perfume, the grass, my meal, my son’s hair, the city.<\/li>\n
  4. Then, taste<\/strong> or imagine 5 tastes: mint, coffee, strawberry, orange, a spice.<\/li>\n
  5. Finally, feel 5 elements to touch:<\/strong> my feet in my shoes, the clothes on my shoulders, the seat under me, my pencil in my hands, a jewel on my skin.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And if you have been following me, you should be much calmer and more present!<\/p>\n

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    5.Breathing according to the 4-4-8 technique<\/h4>\n

    Here is a 2ndexercise.<\/sup> This proven technique reduces tension and soothes. <\/p>\n