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Do the people around you know that you don’t like certain behaviors of your boss… but your boss\u2014” Don’t you know? Would you… by chance… Need a difficult conversation with your boss? <\/p>\n

In general, having difficult conversations can generate a certain amount of stress. \u2026 Whether it’s for fear of losing something or someone, self-confidence, letting go of the result, fear of looking bad… <\/p>\n

Do you prefer the video format? There he is. <\/p>\n

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For example, consider the following situation:<\/strong> You find that your boss has a disrespectful attitude towards you.<\/p>\n

If you’re holding back because you think you’ll lose your job by having this conversation, tell yourself that you still have at least 3 options.<\/p>\n

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  1. Endure the situation and continue to complain to your loved ones;<\/li>\n
  2. Having the conversation, risking losing your job, but gaining respect for yourself;<\/li>\n
  3. Not to endure, not to have the conversation and to change jobs.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Sharing learning from the field<\/strong><\/p>\n

    When I started as a coach, many people consulted me for a career transition. They were no longer good at their work. By dint of digging a little, I often realized that in fact, these people had never mentioned their discomfort. And that by dint of living through a difficult situation at work, they were questioning their careers! <\/p>\n

    In reality, developing courage, leadership, self-confidence, and using the tools of difficult conversations was part of a healthier solution, in my opinion, than leaving and repeating the same pattern in another environment.<\/p>\n

    Of course, this was not the case for everyone, but it was true for the majority.<\/p>\n

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    I share this story because I think you deserve to develop that skill of being able to address difficult situations with your bosses, despite the fears.<\/p>\n

    Being in perpetual questioning is anxiety-provoking! Building the courage to have difficult conversations is possible \ud83d\ude0a <\/p>\n

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    5 Steps to Have a Difficult Conversation with Your Immediate Manager<\/h2>\n

    Step #1: Understand the source of your fear<\/h3>\n

    Why are you hesitating or postponing the conversation with your boss?<\/p>\n

    Let’s say you’re afraid you won’t get a promotion and you don’t want to be a “problem” employee.<\/p>\n

    Now, to understand the source of your fear, imagine the worst. Yes, yes! <\/p>\n

    Think about what could happen if your fear comes true. Like what: <\/p>\n

    Your boss doesn’t give you the promotion you think you deserve because you’ve brought up a sensitive topic.<\/p>\n

    What are you going to do?<\/p>\n

    In a constructive way. So I’m not talking about: sadly curling up in a corner \ud83d\ude09, or going to complain, or gossiping. <\/p>\n

    I ask you what YOU can do? What actions would allow you to move towards a resolution of the situation? <\/p>\n

    You could go and ask the boss why you don’t have the promotion? Could you change jobs? <\/p>\n

    List the options and demystify it a bit.<\/p>\n

    This will give you more mental space to find the facts.<\/p>\n

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    In summary, the first step to having a difficult conversation with your boss is:<\/h6>\n